2/19/08

Thanks for My Kid's Memories

I want to say thank you to all the Room Mothers.

Thank you for organizing the class parties and offering to drive for the field trips. Thank you for all that you do to help the teacher throughout the year.

I’m not a room mother. I would get caught on a conference call and miss the party. I would get buried by a Very Important Project at work and mess up planning the Very Important Party at school.

I will do whatever you ask me to do (hopefully, you communicate via e-mail). I will arrive (hopefully, not late) with cupcakes and juice or balloons and napkins.

I feel bad that I’m not doing more. I feel out of place when I arrive in a suit and heels and sassy hair. I want to randomly announce that I was a stay home mom when my daughter was little. I lived in my two favorite pairs of jeans!

It's not you, it's me. I don't sense any judgement on your part. Again, thank you.

Still. I hope you don’t think I’m a slacker. I hope you don’t think I put my career before my kids. If it came to it, the job would go in an instant. Maybe I should have that embossed on my handbag.

It's not you. It's me.

23 comments:

Sister Honey Bunch said...

OMGosh, I could have written that word for word. Ugh. The guilt.

Sarcastic Mom (aka Lotus) said...

Aww, I *teared*

Being a working mommy has got to be such a double-edged sword. A bit more cash, independence, sense of accomplishment... and Guilt!

You seem a really great and loving mom, though. The world would be boring if we were all SAHMs, anyway. ;-)

lmao @ the handbag idea.

wheelsonthebus said...

That was just perfect. Really.

Elizabeth said...

Is it a surprise that she is a "great and loving mom" because she works?

Maybe I'm reading into that, but, excellent post.

Rima said...

I'm not a room mother (yet), but if I were, I would be totally coveting your stylish wardrobe, sassy hair, and awesome job. And I'd be wondering how you manage it because, damn, it must be difficult. We all have to do what we can and support each other. It's a sisterhood, regardless of whether you are baking or buying the cookies!

Sober Briquette said...

Tip: don't carry that new handbag to work.

(Visiting from Emily's

slouching mom said...

try not to worry. some of us are SAHMs and STILL not room mothers.

i was, once. but there've been too many rooms by now, LOL!

ps i tagged you.

Rachel said...

Awe

That was so sweet Amy!
You seem like such a wonderful woman and mom, if I were a room mother in your kids' room... I'd want to be your friend.

DBN said...

Yes! Exactly!

Meredith said...

Elizabeth--I can't speak for Lotus, but I suspect her compliment has more to do with having met Amy in person last night than shock at the thought of a loving, working mom.

If I am surprised at anything about Amy, it's that she's even more glamorous in person than she appears on the sidebar.

Mothers shouldn't be allowed to look so fabulous!

Di said...

I worked up until about 4 years ago and would always opt to throw money at the school. So when I stopped, I really appreciated having the time to volunteer. I was room mom last year and through that, made two wonderful friends...three if you count the teacher.

What I couldn't believe was the stay-at-home moms who couldn't be bothered helping out. And the working moms who bent over backwards to try to give as much as they could. I think everyone should try both sides so we could all stop judging each other and empathize instead.

Sugarplum's Mom said...

I have a boss who has been very fortunate to be able to work very flexibly and can be her daughter's room mother this year. She's often on her e-mail until 2 am... so it's not necessarily all it's cracked up to be but still nice that she gets to do it. Not too long ago she was telling me she has more trouble getting the SAHM's to participate than the 40 hr a week mom's... she's got a class of 20 and was arranging a party and one mom asked her "do I need to bring fruit for ALL the children? Or just MY child?" then there was the mom who said "I'm only going to bring 20 packets of cocoa. They can only have 1 each and if they want more, too bad"
Oy!

merlotmom said...

Damned if you do, damned if you don't. I felt guilty as a working mom. I feel guilty as a SAHM who can't/won't spend all her time volunteering at schools. Ain't easy, either way. And we envy you when you look good even though we may not say so.

Andrea said...

*stands up and applauds*

I really do wish I could do more...

Anonymous said...

I felt guilty as a SAHM and guilty as a working mom; Hell, I feel guilty all the time just because I'm MOM.

Guess we all should have read more carefully the Mom job description.

Trenches of Mommyhood said...

Great post. Especially as I sit here dreading having to take my Eldest to a b-day party on Fri. night with all the other kindergarten moms so I can have a chance to "mingle." I feel like the only working mother!

Victoria said...

This was wonderful. I'm a WOHM and a room parent. For two classrooms. And I think I suck at it all.

That bag would rock, BTW.

Angela said...

Well. I'll be printing that out and sending it in with my PTA membership dues this month. Perfect.

youarekiddingme said...

I still have two years until I can potentially be a room mom, but I work at home now and just balancing that with raising a child is enough. Starting school makes me break out in a cold sweat. Just one more GINORMOUS responsibility.

Leigh said...

I LOVE this. Though I am a saty at home mom...I am SOOO Onot a room mom. NOT! SO can relate.
speaking of hair. I need your hlep on a story on my blog today, titled Hairapy. What cha think mz new sassy do?

felicity said...

I used to be a full-time SAHM, but recently went back to work. That being said, I am still the room parent, and it is tough.

Tough to get in front of the teacher frequently. But fortunately, my daughter's teacher is young and connected and so we rely on email and Qlubb to get classroom events done.

So while I don't see the teacher as much as I would like, I still do a lot for the teacher.

Anonymous said...

I am a room father and I thought this web site was wonderful and could benefit room mothers/fathers (which of course make for happier teachers). I have attached the email information I received - please forward to help people like me and you - so they can save time and money (no running around) like me.

Thank You,
Dave
(room Mother/Father)




RoomMotherSupplies.com is a new internet tool designed to help room mothers, teachers, aids, and other classroom volunteers prepare for classroom parties and crafts. If you are looking for great ideas for games, snacks and easy crafts for a classroom party, look no further!! We have lots of free ideas to put together a great party and have it delivered right to your door.

RoomMotherSupplies.com has been designed to take away the stress, save money and save the time and hassle of running around from store to store to find just the right things to put together an exciting classroom party. This new site is a great tool that includes free instructions on how to put together an organized party for beginners and the experienced.

Please pass this information along to my fellow room mothers and teachers so we can assist them in planning their next classroom party with ease!

Thank You!

Michele Orn
Room mother

Becky said...

Wow I couldn't have said it any better! I feel as though when I offer to volunteer in my daughter's class, all of the stay at home moms who seem to constantly be in the classroom, are all judging me. They all seem to know all of the names of the kids, what they like, etc. Although I am extremely grateful to them, I can't help but feel a little sad/guilty for not being able to do the same. Recently I read a great book titled, Escaping Toxic Guilt by Susan Carrell. This book has really been a godsend in helping me deal with these feelings of guilt.

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