3/29/09

Mommy Would Rather Change Diapers

Bear at door When Bear was about 18 months old he began, once in a while, to grab his diaper when he peed. He would tell me "pee!" and even though it was too late he wanted to go into the bathroom and stand on the seat, one fat little foot on each side, while I held him under the arms. He'd stand there, looking down into the bowl, waiting. Then he'd hop down and say, "Diaper on." I have gone along with him when he wanted to stand or sit on the potty, but I have not encouraged it. Last Monday, March 23, age 26.5 months, he actually peed in the potty. Oh, we clapped and smiled and went and told Daddy and Brother about it, but I was thinking: NOOOO!!! Please don't make me do this yet Bear. It is just a giant extra JOB. Not only do you have to constantly, consistently, endlessly work on it, but there's also the fun part where every time you get in the car they "haf ta go potty NOW!" and you're dragging them in and out of every public restroom and saying "DON'T TOUCH ANYTHING!!" more then you ever imagined would possibly be necessary. My other kids potty trained just before age three and just after age three. This was fine because they were very ready, it didn't take long, and neither of them had accidents. Once they decided they wanted to, it was pretty much done. Bear is just two. (Though if you ask him how old he is, he says without hesitation, "EIGHT.") Will he have a year of accident proneness? Cause - ohpleaseno. Even if he is ready and he does train now, well that still stinks. (pun. heh.) Diapers are much less fun once the kid is talking plain English back at you, but chubby baby legs walking around in diaper butt - well, is anything cuter than that? Bear at door 2

13 comments:

Belle said...

Oh - thank God I've passed that stage - about a million years ago - I don't miss it at all.

Ellen Stewart (aka Ellie/El) said...

Oh, wouldn't my son be pleased to know I'm writing about this? I felt the same way about potting training as you do. It doesn't offer freedom, they still have accidents, and you have to know where every public bathroom is in every public building within 50 miles of home. "Let's see, at Macy's it's upstairs in the hair salon." "In Marshall's it's in the back by lay-away." "In the library it's in the hall, but he'll want to look at the diorama before, 'No after, Honey,' on his way in..."

Fortunately he wasn't into the idea at all until he was past 2.5, and I didn't rush it.

Ah yes, those were the days. You are a lucky girl!

And now, I believe I am done being fabulous for the day.

Michelle Smiles said...

I think this is why I haven't pushed it with Sabrina yet - I just don't want to be held hostage by her little bladder yet. My patience isn't high and I don't want to deal with multiple accidents a day. I'm a chicken - I'll admit it.

Amy in Ohio said...

If I could, I would totally ship P off and outsource this piece of the parenting puzzle.

livelaughlove95 said...

Potty training sucks. GMan is 4, has been potty trained for over a year but still has the occasional accident, still wears a pull-up at night and still needs help wiping after #2 (though that's mainly b/c I shudder to think what would happen if I let him even try it!)

Malia

Amy @ Milk Breath and Margaritas said...

livelaughlove - oh yes, helping with wiping small bottoms! That part takes a lot longer. Years even. Thanks for reminding me...

Angie's Spot said...

This is exactly why I've been dragging my feet on training my youngest. (She turns 3 on Sunday) I hate dragging them into public restrooms and having to strip the carseat cover everytime an accident occurs in the car. Sigh.

Ellen Stewart (aka Ellie/El) said...

When I read "mommy" blogs I get more than nostalgic--my son is 22 and I'm 48, so no more babies for me (plus I cannot even imagine what my stepkids--they all have their own kids-would say if I got pregnant), but this is a good post with fun comments because it makes me say, "Been there done that," and I don't want to do it again!

Blog nicheless me,
ellie

WM said...

Ugh, totally remember that. The best idea I ever heard was from a co-worker that had two children close in age. She took a small potty chair in her car. She used a small diaper in the middle to absorb the pee or poop. It was the best idea ever since it seemed that every time we got in the car and weren't near a public bathroom one or both of the twins needed to go. I also added a plastic shopping bag underneath the diaper so that once they went potty I could tie it up and quickly dispose of it. A little hand sanitizer and we were on the go.

Rima said...

Oh, I totally get that! Here's hoping the March 23d episode was a one time thing ;)

Amy @ Milk Breath and Margaritas said...

WM - What a great idea! I'm going to try that.

Rima - HE DID IT AGAIN TONIGHT! I can't even believe it. Maybe he'll just pee in the toilet every Monday.

OHmommy said...

you do have a good argument. there is almost nothing cuter then that behind.

so stinking cute. heh. ;)

BlueBella said...

I'm so with you on this one. My twins just turned 2 and I'm no where near ready for them to potty train. We tried about a month ago (it was the Nanny's idea) to train and it turned out a disaster. It is MUCH easier to change diapers.

Except this last 2 weeks my daughter has started letting me know when she needs to go #2 and when we race to the potty sometimes she actually goes. #2 in the toilet is SWEET.

But I'm still all about the diapers until they are totally ready . . .and I'm ready, too.

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